191. Why You Train Differently To Everyone
Have you ever watched a friend train their gundog and thought, “Why am I reacting like this, and they’re so calm about the exact same thing?” It’s easy to fall into the comparison trap, feeling like you’re doing it all wrong simply because your approach is different. But what if that difference wasn’t a weakness, but a key to unlocking your most effective training style?
We recently sat down with our brilliant LWDG mindset coach, Emma Liddell, a trained psychotherapistwho has noticed powerful patterns in the way we women handle and train our dogs. Her new framework, The Dog Handler Archetype, is a self-awareness tool designed to help you understand your core drivers, work with your strengths, and finally soften the edges that might be holding you back. It’s a game-changer that goes beyond obedience and straight to the heart of why you train the way you do.
The Five Archetypes: Understanding Your Core Driver
Emma’s research comes from a simple, yet profound observation: we all fall into certain behavioural patterns when problems arise. In dog training, these patterns become crystal clear, helping us see whether we are building a supportive partnership or accidentally creating resistance. Understanding your core driver is the first step towards feeling seen and supported on your gundog journey.
Here are the five Handler Archetypes Emma has identified:
- The Fixer: Driven by the mantra, “I must solve it.” You are analytical, persistent, and research-driven, but you risk micromanaging your dog, jumping in too early, and not allowing them time to think for themselves.
- The Protector: Driven by, “I don’t want the dog to fail.” You are empathetic, gentle, and patient. This is beautiful, but it can lead to over-sheltering your dog, avoiding new challenges, and holding back your (and your dog’s) growth out of fear of upsetting them.
- The Achiever: Driven by, “I want progress and results.” You are focused, resilient, and put in the work. Ribbons and certificates are your measure. The danger here is becoming outcome-obsessed, impatient, and losing track of the fun and the relationship with your dog.
- The Nurturer: Driven by, “The connection comes first.” You are compassionate, calm, and intuitive. The relationship is everything, but you may struggle with boundaries, having a stern tone, or saying ‘no’—often excusing behaviours because “they’re just a baby.”
- The Competitor: Driven by, “I want to be the best.” You are incredibly determined and brave, willing to push out of your comfort zone for the goal. The downside is a high likelihood of comparing your dog to others, strong emotional swings after failure, and a mentality that views the dog as a changeable partnership if the goal isn’t met.
Why Knowing Your Type Changes Everything
It’s important to remember that you are not one-dimensional. You might be a Fixer with your working Spaniel but lean Nurturer with your cuddly pet dog at home, and that’s completely normal!
The true power of this framework lies in self-awareness. When you understand your natural leanings, you can intentionally work on the ‘negative’ edges. For example, a natural Fixer can learn to hold back their corrections, allowing the dog that critical one-and-a-half seconds to process and learn. A Protector can gently push themselves out of their comfort zone, knowing a small challenge won’t break their dog’s spirit.
This knowledge also helps you understand why certain training situations trigger you. You might find yourself adopting an archetype you were trained with (like a father’s Competitor drive) even if it doesn’t align with your own goals or personality. When you name the pattern, you can choose to step out of it.
Finding a Compatible Trainer
The Handler Archetypes are not just about your dog; they’re about how you solve problems in life. And they are particularly useful when you are looking for outside help.
Imagine you are a natural Nurturer, connection comes first, and you go to a trainer who is a dedicated Competitor. You might feel instant resistance to their methods, believing they are too harsh or focused solely on outcomes. Conversely, if two Nurturers train together, they might have a lovely time but find that the progression they seek is frustratingly slow.
The Power of Intentional Balance
The key, as Emma points out, is not to find a trainer who is exactly like you, but one who is different but compatible.
If you are a Fixer and go to a Protector trainer, you might get frustrated by their slow, gentle approach, feeling they are holding you back. However, if you are an anxious Nurturer and find a supportive Protector trainer, the fit might be perfect, giving you the safety and gentleness you need to build confidence.
Understanding your archetype means you can be more articulate about what you need from a trainer. It shifts the blame from “That trainer wasn’t good for me” to “That trainer wasn’t the right fit for my current needs and natural style.” This is powerful stuff for building self-confidence in the demanding world of gundog training.
Conclusion
If you’ve been nodding along, recognising these traits in yourself, your training friends, or even your family, this is your chance to deepen that understanding. Every one of these archetypes has fantastic strengths, and knowing them is the ultimate tool for progress. Remember, you’re not behind; you’re just learning.
To take the next step, join Emma’s free live masterclass on Tuesday, 18th November at 7:00 PM where you’ll take a short self-assessment, discover your dominant archetype, and get specific guides on how to use your strengths.
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